There were other consequences from my move, first and foremost my appearance. I have always been a clotheshorse. I was know for my wardrobe and especially my expensive footwear. At library conferences and academic committee meetings, I was usually the only one in Manolos. Now, I'm down to one pair, with only 2" heels, and I haven't even worn them this year. I spent the spring and summer in Birkenstocks, which I used to consider the ugliest shoes on earth. I even have a "dress pair" of Birks. I haven't yet sunk to crocs, the current holder of that title, but you never know. This winter, my only new shoe purchase, and most frequently worn footwear, is a pair of "Wellies" -- knee-high hunter green rain boots. I used to buy clothes with reckless abandon, and spent hours thinking about what to wear. Even when I worked at home, I dressed up to run errands or to go out to eat. Now I get up and put on one of three pairs (each) of jeans or khakis. The khakis are men's, from Goodwill. These are paired with one of 5 sweaters, with a t-shirt underneath. And those are my "nicer" outfits, that I wear to work. If I'm staying in, it's yoga pants and fleece sweatshirts. I did wear long cotton dresses in summer, on hot days, but mostly I wear pants now, unless I'm travelling for work.
I used to spend an enormous amount of time and money on personal maintenance. Hair was cut and colored every 4 weeks, facial once a month, mani/pedi once or twice a month, especially in summer, regular massages. I had one facial one massage in the last year. I haven't had my nails done in a year and a half. I stopped coloring my hair almost two years ago, and it's now
On a less superficial level, I think I am calmer (well, a little), more adventurous, more flexible (or maybe less rigid), and more accommodating than I used to be. Part of this comes from living with someone for the first time in 25 years, and part fromreally believing that this someone truly loves me enough to accept all my faults. I actually quite like living with someone. It makes life easier in many ways, and the benefits more than make up for relinquishing complete control over my living quarters.
In all, I'm very pleased with the changes. Sometimes I do miss dressing up, getting compliments, attracting attention, but overall it's nice to just blend in with the crowd, and be comfortable. That's a good way to sum up the changes: I'm more comfortable -- with myself, with my life, with my choices -- than I have been before.